well i'm not sure about the old school
but Club Aria(i think it's been shut down for a while because of a shooting but u can try and call them at (617) 338-7080),club, and club Axis are two good clubs that include some good r&b, and hip hop music in their dance selection. Also there is another club called Club Rumor, where every Tuesday is Hip hop night, all hip and r&b all night long!
there are also some good 18+ events at certain clubs most of the time and all they play is hip hop r&b and reggae, if you like old school reggae music, there are some interesting events you can visit where jamaican artist perform
just go to this website
http://www.bobbyshakes.com/index10.php ,and there are many flyers posted with many events.

Congrats on getting married! I wish you the best of luck! : )